Love
The OUTCOME of YOUR INCOME #HAPPINESS
Money can’t buy love, but it can afford a happy lifestyle. I totally believe that you can buy your happiness, but first you have to have the resources to be “Want” and “Need” proficient. How does your savings look?
“Laissez-faire ” the practice or doctrine of noninterference in the affairs of others, especially with reference to individual conduct or freedom of action. (Dictionary.com)
More than just a term used in History, It’s also a way of life that we should adapt to when it comes to money. I feel as if we would be happier if we took care of our needs FIRST and then satisfied our wants NEXT.
Be honest with yourself, how many times have you been in a predicament where you just have to have something, no matter the cost? We’re Americans…(we’re so spoiled) We want it when we want it, how we want it, all just to worry about the aftermath of in a latter event.
I have a hustle mentality and work tactic of slaving in overtime, but the “OUTCOME” of “INCOME” is so beautiful to me. If i have an overflow of overtime, that means that I EXCEEDED my regular hours…that means I HAVE MORE MONEY TO DO WHAT I WANT AND NEED…at the SAME time….so, for instance iBLOG, iWRITE… but in order for me to afford the “luxury” of building RealBdotcom… that’s where the “iWORK” comes into place.
It’s euphoria to have your wants satisfied while your needs are met, but nothing is fun about stressing on how the rent will get paid if you’re one of the ones updating your “fresh swag”, smoking like 2 chainz, (extensions), or buying the newest next hottest thing on the market. Money can make us happy if we spend it on the right things first.
Stay away from being a materialistic being. You can’t take any of those with you to Heaven (if that’s your goal)
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A REAL B MOMENT: LOVIN THE CREW? 80/20 Rule?Who Cares?? JUST CHOOSE!
I posted a little tidbit on the Trey Songz, Lauren London beef that arose on social networks today. I chose “lovin the crew” not only because it’s the last Drake song a friend played in her car as we proceeded to work, but it symbolizes how a guy/ girl WILL utilize the skill of “Having their cake” and “Eating it too” if you don’t smush the shit in their face.
I had a friend, who took the time out of her day to work on a relationship restore after a hard days work with her “man”. She’s the 80 of course! However, there are 20’s floating around…She shouldn’t be working towards restoring something that she never wrecked. Not only is her effort more than what’s given…but I guess the words “LOVE” and “your so understanding” and “I appreciate you” are the pacifiers for #doormatting.
My key rule to all of my friends is, your business ain’t my business and my business ain’t yo business…but when it comes down to listening, I had to give my opinion and feedback on what’s real…If you are a man or a woman holding on to past 20’s while you have an “alleged” exclusive relationship with an 80..SLAP YA SELF! Even if it’s vice versa…Really? You have to have more than one person? Big Ego Pimpin!!!!
In my opinion (for my friend), it’s nasty…if you wanna live like a KING produce the LIFE to a QUEEN so she won’t be worried about the other “issues”. That’s what men who had many wives did, took care of home…Today’s day in age it’s like you’re settling for bare minimum just to say your with someone. The idiot below(Kobe Bryant)…I cannot take away from his career, but I can say he’s a “loving the crew” get caught type. Everytime he gets caught cheating however, he realizes it’s cheaper to keep her. 
And for those “havers AND eaters” at the same damn time, Don’t you get tired of getting “love from the crew”… Some guy was telling me all men love hoes, they love women, but they love hoes too….Sad thing is a REAL WOMAN will be EVERYTHING a man needs and more (if he acts right)…so what’s the next excuse?….Stay lovin the crew if thas how u live, but damn move around from the real pollute fake hoes with that dumb shit!
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“LOVE HURTS :-/” TREY AND LAUREN FACEBOOK DRAMATICS!
AT first I was suprised by that beautiful little picture in my update from several people subscribed to Lauren Londons Facebook page
. I’m like Kudos though…15 hours later, I get an email and inbox to go check a friends Facebook update because Trey Songz and Lauren London are beefing publicly (EYEBROW RAISE..) We just found out y’all were a couple though…If you want to peep the mess here are a few clips below via screenshot. Or you can Go subscribe to Lauren London’s Page or Trey Songz (Tremaine Neverson)
. It appeared that the beef started about 14 hours ago and has since died down, but the screen shots are below!!! Publicity stunt or is this really real? They are human after all just like we are… but rumor has it, this may have been in regards to YMCMB’s own Shanell SNL (Side eye) hmmm well…Say it aint So…but, I can say right now, I bet the neighbors DON’T know his name right now, from Lauren London’s suburb!!!
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@DiamondATL aka Ms. 32 FLAVAZ
Brittany Nicole Carpentero…y’all know her… Ms. ATLien cornbread fed Puerto Rican and Black mixture thoroughbred…She is one of my most favorite mainstream and mixtape femcees to date. I just love her!!!Ms. Diamond aka Ms. 32 Flavaz (now Google that!)
Creating her legacy by joining the group Crime Mob in 2004. The group’s takeover launched with “Knuck If You Buck,” Which went platinum instantaneously. She moved forward with her own endeavors November 2007. Diamond left her group and 2010, showed us what #HOTLANTA chicks are made of!!! “My Chick Bad,” which was a Ludacris single, along with Trina and Eve reminded us she is no rookie to the game.
Debuting her very own single “Lotta Money” the summer of 2010, heightened the coming out of #TEAMPRETTY leader(@Twitter hashtag she populated); Keeping the fans enticed, she released her single “Buy It All” on BET’s 106 & Park late 2011, and was also nominated for Best Female Hip Hop Artist at the BET Awards of 2011. What an amazing year for her!!!
Rumors of her being on the new season of Love and Hip hop…#SMASHED!!!!…DON’T believe the hype!!! She will NOT be doing so. “I’m just not trying to surround myself around drama,” Diamond told AllHipHop.com. “I just have worked so hard to get away from that. I’d rather put my life into music, rather then just be on a reality show. I’m just not one to gamble with my life and career like that.”
The most controversial thing I can say that surfaced was former breakup fire that was fueled with ATL’s crowned Prince Lil’ Scrappy (and his Ma Dukes). A brief candid sour patch candy face moment (not for her however). As of now she has been linked with rapper beau Soulja Boy. Talk about #UPGRADED swag. I’m not sure how true that is, but any man with Jay-Z attributes better “Beyonce” his woman’s life!!!
What’s new in 2012??? According to @DiamondATL Twitter news, As anticipation builds for her debut album,she told Boombox.com, “I don’t want it to drop no later than third quarter [of 2012]…I’m just gearing up with a lot of different producers. I’m going down to Miami, to start work with The Runners. I have two records with Jim Jonsin. So I’m just transitioning over to that big sound, leaving that old sound behind.”
And ya girl gon’ go HOLLYWOOD!!! She’s doing a movie as well. Diamond has been my breath of new inspiration for wearing all the hats of a real woman holding it down in Hip Hop: keeping her business personal (and out of unnecessary scandal), chasing goals through obstacles and successfully working towards them to execute and pursue. #ATL #SALUTE
“A lot of other artists reached out to me because of my mixtape, and they want to do features on it,”
I can see why, here are some of her most recent works.
2009: “Superbad” (featuring Cee-Lo Green)
2010: “Lotta Money”
2011: “Hit That Hoe” (featuring Waka Flocka)
2011: “Buy It All”
2012: “Loose Screws”
Mixtapes
2007: Bitch Musik
2008: Bitch Musik Vol. 2: Ms. Boojhetto
2009: P.M.S. (Pardon My Swag)
2010: Bitch Musik: Part Three
2010: Cocaine Waitress
2011: Bitch Musik 4: Poor Little Rich Gurl
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Credits: Pictures FredyO.com, Interview: Boombox.com & AllHipHop.com
He/She Smashed the Homies…
Urban dictionary “correct definition” is:
When a person in a relationship (open or exclusive) finds out their partner has slept (had sex) with their friend/associate, prior to the relationship’s existence.
You meet someone, y’all vibe, connect and expand on another level, just to find out somebody had a piece of the pie you want to fully consume?! It happens so much, and I did remember briefly “For the Love of Ray J”, the beginning of this “Smash the Homie” pandemonium. He had two instances where two women slept with one of his close friends. .Reality is, there is too much time in the world to build towards getting over who your lover smashed. Why be worried about what happened before you “clocked” your time in with your boo. That’s all it is…a PRIOR technicality, or “foul” in the game of life.It doesn’t mean it’s completely over, it is a small hiccup that requirea you be a grown individual. “IT” happens, get over yourself. If you’re not the Virgin Mary herself, you’re bound to sleep with someone or be with someone through an extension of someone you know, knew or heard of! Real T.
I’m not saying to partake in a big orgy fest and expect it and accept it, but it’s probably common that it’s occurred at least once in a lifetime. Getting to know people and dating are not on my tasks of easy to do’s, but it can be done if there is, men probably handle this better than women. Majority of women tend not to judge you on your past. We trust in our ability to enhance a man through a relationship, or “Upgrade U”. That basically means you don’t need anybody or anything further (she accepted your “smash the homie” and is holding you down, what more do you need?). Most men more than likely will test women until they get to a point where they can trust her, especially if she was the homie smasher.
I don’t believe that who you slept with before who you fell in love with will determine if your relationship will last.You have no control over who you meet and sleep with, and if anybody is at fault, it would be coincidence. I don’t like the idea of conforming to society for their idea of happiness. Live your life… and if you can’t, check out my previous post it gives you insight on how to worry about you.
“GET YO LIFE BOO, GET YO LIFE” https://realbdotcom.wordpress.com/2012/05/03/get-yo-life-boo-get-yo-life/
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Seek & U Shall Find (“Snoopy”)
Getting in my Mojo for the day, and I #Google the interview from Love & Hip Hop’s Chrissy Lampkin squashing infidelity rumors about rapper beau Jim Jones. http://www.realitytea.com/tag/chrissy-lampkin/ I truly respect her standpoint of being a woman who is well kept, and trusting her man to keep her house a happy home leaving all the TRASH outside of the door.
I asked one of my respected male friends about the topic. Of course that’s a no go, according to him! It’s like taking a piece of a man’s manhood and by the facial expressions expressed after I posed the question, he stated that maybe previous relationship pattern history and trust issues would be a reason for justifying the act of snooping. Suspicions should be shot down by asking for the truth and receiving the truth. If entertaining dishonesty, realize that you’re still being lied to; which follows through with pursuit of the snoop effect—(now you’re looking alll crazy!)
Confrontation should occur if you have taken the liberty to snoop. When I’ve played my role of “Snoop Doggy Dog” I had to basically decide how I wanted to deal with it. State the issue at hand so there is no confusion(this is what I know, this is what I saw, this is what I want to know). I have had the whole “insecure” word thrown out afterwards, but reality is that insecurity would be based off of infidelity. (it doesn’t have to be physical, it can be emotional as well). If it turned to a denial, I left. #KNOWYOURWORTH
If it’s worth repairing, by all means do it…if it’s not KEEP IT MOVIN.
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SEX AIN’T BETTER THAN LOVE????
I love that Trey Songz song but, doesn’t Sex coincide with love? What a great round table discussion for me and my girls. Talking to people who are single, married, in relationships and of course, the “in betweeners” (we together, but we ain’t together) makes this topic bigger than my blog, but I tried to narrow it down as best as I can.
My #SEXandtheCitySanAntonio ladies all agree that SEX is needed and wanted by both men or women; but, can everybody handle it when emotions become involved? That’s the posed question. Lust is the physical attraction that builds up to sex; but, some tend to confuse great sex with love. Lust can either grow into love or remain at a standstill.
Me, I’m a hopeless romantic who loves to be in love and hopes that it never leaves me (when I do find it). Love is like a rubber band. Its elastic, it stretches out (sometimes too thin) but if it’s true, it will always go back to 50/50. Getting to know your partner, yourself and your relationship (whatever status it is) will make the “rubber band” effect of the relationship more balanced. “Tell me what’s real so I know how to deal with you”. Quote #SexandtheCitySanAntonio cause we said dat!
All three have different definitions but in conjunction can make a great relationship foundation. Building a long term relationship, you need all three to balance and grow with your partner. It feels good when you can be with somebody long-term, and they still look at you as if it were the first time they laid eyes on you all over. If two people can still keep the sexual desire for “motion in the ocean”, then rock the boat baby!
If nothing in life is perfect, and everything takes time…I expect to go through a few pains in order to build a foundation that will take a lustful emotion and expand it into a loving relationship.
Live your Life with No Regrets
Sitting at my desk, i’m thinking about relationships. (I suppose the quote I shared yesterday that happens to be glaring at me as we speak would be the reason as to why)
It reads as follows:
“In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, relationships we are afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make”
The word “regret” is defined as the emotion sensed for feeling sorry or sad about a person, place or thing (after an event took place)
It can can appear to be hurtful by others as well….
“Chances not taken”, I can understand how regret ties to this somehow. If you do try and fail, you don’t feel good about the outcome. If you don’t try, you feel inadequate because your mind allowed the “shouldda,couldda, wouldda, but didn’t scenario to take over your brain .
“Relationships we are afraid to have”, if you don’t try, try again, and after that, keep trying til you win, you will always be a sore love loser. Love hurts….bottom line. Not intentionally and not all the time. When you have two people trying to become one soul intertwined, someone is the distributor and one will receive the aftermath of. That’s why it pays to “Be Full”, remember happy people stay full. If you’re happy, your relationships are good.
1Corinthians talks about the beautiful side of love….
If you take life quizzes and “charge it to the pain”, when the true test of love comes you’ll pass with flying colors. Love takes strength and only the strong survive 😉
“Decisions that took too long to take”, kinda like musical chairs…If you don’t make moves or attempt to, someone is going to have the heart to beat you to the punch of trying. You can’t be afraid to try. If you fail, be persistent enough to restructure ur plan, rebuild your foundation and get back up again….
Be Full…
“A full life…”
That was a post by Evelyn Lozada a few weeks ago. I’m glaring at a picture that contains a zesty turquoise background with a cup of what I conveyed as being life, poured full.
Your life consists of everything around you…Grab a deck, shuffle, and distribute. That’s the game of life and everybody gets dealt hands (some better hands than others).
Nonetheless we are dealt something…and it may not be the
greatest hand, but with every breath of life you breathe is a chance to change whatever it is that’s not keeping your life as full as it can be at all times. Happy people stay full!
Hell, fake it ’til u make it if you have to (people kill to see misery). I mean if trouble doesn’t last always anyways, then certainly smile ’til Joy comes in the morning!
@EvelynLozada
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