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A REAL B MOMENT: LOVIN THE CREW? 80/20 Rule?Who Cares?? JUST CHOOSE!
I posted a little tidbit on the Trey Songz, Lauren London beef that arose on social networks today. I chose “lovin the crew” not only because it’s the last Drake song a friend played in her car as we proceeded to work, but it symbolizes how a guy/ girl WILL utilize the skill of “Having their cake” and “Eating it too” if you don’t smush the shit in their face.
I had a friend, who took the time out of her day to work on a relationship restore after a hard days work with her “man”. She’s the 80 of course! However, there are 20’s floating around…She shouldn’t be working towards restoring something that she never wrecked. Not only is her effort more than what’s given…but I guess the words “LOVE” and “your so understanding” and “I appreciate you” are the pacifiers for #doormatting.
My key rule to all of my friends is, your business ain’t my business and my business ain’t yo business…but when it comes down to listening, I had to give my opinion and feedback on what’s real…If you are a man or a woman holding on to past 20’s while you have an “alleged” exclusive relationship with an 80..SLAP YA SELF! Even if it’s vice versa…Really? You have to have more than one person? Big Ego Pimpin!!!!
In my opinion (for my friend), it’s nasty…if you wanna live like a KING produce the LIFE to a QUEEN so she won’t be worried about the other “issues”. That’s what men who had many wives did, took care of home…Today’s day in age it’s like you’re settling for bare minimum just to say your with someone. The idiot below(Kobe Bryant)…I cannot take away from his career, but I can say he’s a “loving the crew” get caught type. Everytime he gets caught cheating however, he realizes it’s cheaper to keep her. 
And for those “havers AND eaters” at the same damn time, Don’t you get tired of getting “love from the crew”… Some guy was telling me all men love hoes, they love women, but they love hoes too….Sad thing is a REAL WOMAN will be EVERYTHING a man needs and more (if he acts right)…so what’s the next excuse?….Stay lovin the crew if thas how u live, but damn move around from the real pollute fake hoes with that dumb shit!
XOXO REALBDOTCOM
@DiamondATL aka Ms. 32 FLAVAZ
Brittany Nicole Carpentero…y’all know her… Ms. ATLien cornbread fed Puerto Rican and Black mixture thoroughbred…She is one of my most favorite mainstream and mixtape femcees to date. I just love her!!!Ms. Diamond aka Ms. 32 Flavaz (now Google that!)
Creating her legacy by joining the group Crime Mob in 2004. The group’s takeover launched with “Knuck If You Buck,” Which went platinum instantaneously. She moved forward with her own endeavors November 2007. Diamond left her group and 2010, showed us what #HOTLANTA chicks are made of!!! “My Chick Bad,” which was a Ludacris single, along with Trina and Eve reminded us she is no rookie to the game.
Debuting her very own single “Lotta Money” the summer of 2010, heightened the coming out of #TEAMPRETTY leader(@Twitter hashtag she populated); Keeping the fans enticed, she released her single “Buy It All” on BET’s 106 & Park late 2011, and was also nominated for Best Female Hip Hop Artist at the BET Awards of 2011. What an amazing year for her!!!
Rumors of her being on the new season of Love and Hip hop…#SMASHED!!!!…DON’T believe the hype!!! She will NOT be doing so. “I’m just not trying to surround myself around drama,” Diamond told AllHipHop.com. “I just have worked so hard to get away from that. I’d rather put my life into music, rather then just be on a reality show. I’m just not one to gamble with my life and career like that.”
The most controversial thing I can say that surfaced was former breakup fire that was fueled with ATL’s crowned Prince Lil’ Scrappy (and his Ma Dukes). A brief candid sour patch candy face moment (not for her however). As of now she has been linked with rapper beau Soulja Boy. Talk about #UPGRADED swag. I’m not sure how true that is, but any man with Jay-Z attributes better “Beyonce” his woman’s life!!!
What’s new in 2012??? According to @DiamondATL Twitter news, As anticipation builds for her debut album,she told Boombox.com, “I don’t want it to drop no later than third quarter [of 2012]…I’m just gearing up with a lot of different producers. I’m going down to Miami, to start work with The Runners. I have two records with Jim Jonsin. So I’m just transitioning over to that big sound, leaving that old sound behind.”
And ya girl gon’ go HOLLYWOOD!!! She’s doing a movie as well. Diamond has been my breath of new inspiration for wearing all the hats of a real woman holding it down in Hip Hop: keeping her business personal (and out of unnecessary scandal), chasing goals through obstacles and successfully working towards them to execute and pursue. #ATL #SALUTE
“A lot of other artists reached out to me because of my mixtape, and they want to do features on it,”
I can see why, here are some of her most recent works.
2009: “Superbad” (featuring Cee-Lo Green)
2010: “Lotta Money”
2011: “Hit That Hoe” (featuring Waka Flocka)
2011: “Buy It All”
2012: “Loose Screws”
Mixtapes
2007: Bitch Musik
2008: Bitch Musik Vol. 2: Ms. Boojhetto
2009: P.M.S. (Pardon My Swag)
2010: Bitch Musik: Part Three
2010: Cocaine Waitress
2011: Bitch Musik 4: Poor Little Rich Gurl
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Credits: Pictures FredyO.com, Interview: Boombox.com & AllHipHop.com
He/She Smashed the Homies…
Urban dictionary “correct definition” is:
When a person in a relationship (open or exclusive) finds out their partner has slept (had sex) with their friend/associate, prior to the relationship’s existence.
You meet someone, y’all vibe, connect and expand on another level, just to find out somebody had a piece of the pie you want to fully consume?! It happens so much, and I did remember briefly “For the Love of Ray J”, the beginning of this “Smash the Homie” pandemonium. He had two instances where two women slept with one of his close friends. .Reality is, there is too much time in the world to build towards getting over who your lover smashed. Why be worried about what happened before you “clocked” your time in with your boo. That’s all it is…a PRIOR technicality, or “foul” in the game of life.It doesn’t mean it’s completely over, it is a small hiccup that requirea you be a grown individual. “IT” happens, get over yourself. If you’re not the Virgin Mary herself, you’re bound to sleep with someone or be with someone through an extension of someone you know, knew or heard of! Real T.
I’m not saying to partake in a big orgy fest and expect it and accept it, but it’s probably common that it’s occurred at least once in a lifetime. Getting to know people and dating are not on my tasks of easy to do’s, but it can be done if there is, men probably handle this better than women. Majority of women tend not to judge you on your past. We trust in our ability to enhance a man through a relationship, or “Upgrade U”. That basically means you don’t need anybody or anything further (she accepted your “smash the homie” and is holding you down, what more do you need?). Most men more than likely will test women until they get to a point where they can trust her, especially if she was the homie smasher.
I don’t believe that who you slept with before who you fell in love with will determine if your relationship will last.You have no control over who you meet and sleep with, and if anybody is at fault, it would be coincidence. I don’t like the idea of conforming to society for their idea of happiness. Live your life… and if you can’t, check out my previous post it gives you insight on how to worry about you.
“GET YO LIFE BOO, GET YO LIFE” https://realbdotcom.wordpress.com/2012/05/03/get-yo-life-boo-get-yo-life/
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Seek & U Shall Find (“Snoopy”)
Getting in my Mojo for the day, and I #Google the interview from Love & Hip Hop’s Chrissy Lampkin squashing infidelity rumors about rapper beau Jim Jones. http://www.realitytea.com/tag/chrissy-lampkin/ I truly respect her standpoint of being a woman who is well kept, and trusting her man to keep her house a happy home leaving all the TRASH outside of the door.
I asked one of my respected male friends about the topic. Of course that’s a no go, according to him! It’s like taking a piece of a man’s manhood and by the facial expressions expressed after I posed the question, he stated that maybe previous relationship pattern history and trust issues would be a reason for justifying the act of snooping. Suspicions should be shot down by asking for the truth and receiving the truth. If entertaining dishonesty, realize that you’re still being lied to; which follows through with pursuit of the snoop effect—(now you’re looking alll crazy!)
Confrontation should occur if you have taken the liberty to snoop. When I’ve played my role of “Snoop Doggy Dog” I had to basically decide how I wanted to deal with it. State the issue at hand so there is no confusion(this is what I know, this is what I saw, this is what I want to know). I have had the whole “insecure” word thrown out afterwards, but reality is that insecurity would be based off of infidelity. (it doesn’t have to be physical, it can be emotional as well). If it turned to a denial, I left. #KNOWYOURWORTH
If it’s worth repairing, by all means do it…if it’s not KEEP IT MOVIN.
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If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. – Winston Churchill
I find it very easy to do the wrong things with no thought, question or concern and yet the right things seems like the hardest part of life to some.
Time is the key to life. I was once told that you are basically living everyday to die. This sounded all kinds of freakish, but when you put it into perspective, I get it! From the time you were born, you’re ready to die. Every step in life is gearing you towards just that. Time is the essence of life, and it makes your world go round. Think about how much time you do or don’t have according to how you spend your days….
I used to probably be one of the smartest procrastinators I know. (contravening to the statement, it is possible to be both) I used to pride about being able to succeed at everything I attempted simply because if it appeared to show some sort of success, then in my mind, I’ve conquered defeat. No matter how much I love being the person who doesn’t study to get “good” results, I’ve encountered that smarter people who apply skills get “great” results. (at least in this case)
…anyone can be good, but a PROFESSIONAL is going to sharpen skills in life to be better than just average.
I had to take my own advice. I purchased calendars, planners, and anything leadership or organization oriented to keep me under wraps with trying to enhance my entrepreneurial mindset.(Which has worked surprisingly well thusfar.) Perhaps if I had taken TIME, the outcome of success might have proven to be different.
Time also correlates with money. This is something we need to survive (I don’t care what anybody says, in this day in age it’s the one powerful thing that separates “haves” and “have nots” somehow in our society.) When you PLAN to do things with your TIME, you will see the difference in how things come together. Work diligently, your paycheck will reflect that.
Overall, the key word in all of this is PLAN. Plan to be the success you desire to be in life.
“Always plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark.” Richard C. Cushing
Be Full…
“A full life…”
That was a post by Evelyn Lozada a few weeks ago. I’m glaring at a picture that contains a zesty turquoise background with a cup of what I conveyed as being life, poured full.
Your life consists of everything around you…Grab a deck, shuffle, and distribute. That’s the game of life and everybody gets dealt hands (some better hands than others).
Nonetheless we are dealt something…and it may not be the
greatest hand, but with every breath of life you breathe is a chance to change whatever it is that’s not keeping your life as full as it can be at all times. Happy people stay full!
Hell, fake it ’til u make it if you have to (people kill to see misery). I mean if trouble doesn’t last always anyways, then certainly smile ’til Joy comes in the morning!
@EvelynLozada
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