I love that Trey Songz song but, doesn’t Sex coincide with love? What a great round table discussion for me and my girls. Talking to people who are single, married, in relationships and of course, the “in betweeners” (we together, but we ain’t together) makes this topic bigger than my blog, but I tried to narrow it down as best as I can.

My #SEXandtheCitySanAntonio ladies all agree that SEX is needed and wanted by both men or women; but, can everybody handle it when emotions become involved? That’s the posed question. Lust is the physical attraction that builds up to sex; but, some tend to confuse great sex with love. Lust can either grow into love or remain at a standstill.

 Me, I’m a hopeless romantic who loves to be in love and hopes that it never leaves me (when I do find it). Love is like a rubber band. Its elastic, it stretches out (sometimes too thin) but if it’s true, it will always go back to 50/50. Getting to know your partner, yourself and your relationship (whatever status it is) will make the “rubber band” effect of the relationship more balanced. “Tell me what’s real so I know how to deal with you”. Quote #SexandtheCitySanAntonio cause we said dat!

All three have different definitions but in conjunction can make a great relationship foundation. Building a long term relationship, you need all three to balance and grow with your partner. It feels good when you can be with somebody long-term, and they still look at you as if it were the first time they laid eyes on you all over. If two people can still keep the sexual desire for “motion in the ocean”, then rock the boat baby!

If nothing in life is perfect, and everything takes time…I expect to go through a few pains in order to build a foundation that will take a lustful emotion and expand it into a loving relationship.